1. Be a good listener. Restrain the urge to tell your own story. Let it be about them.
2. Use gentle words – and only a few words – to help your friend gain perspective. When we are discouraged we tend to lose sight of the whole picture.
3. Affirm your friend’s feelings. Sometimes we just need to be heard or to know we are not alone.
4. Pray for your friend. Then write them a note and tell them you prayed.
5. Let your friend know you are thinking of them in moments they would not expect to hear from you.
6. Sometimes a thoughtful (not expensive) gift can convey feelings that words can’t. Something informational that they are interested in, something made in the kitchen, a single flower, an offer to go out for latte or a smoothie, are small ways to convey that you care.
7. Encourage your friend by pointing out their gifts and talents and remind them of how they have influenced your life.
8. Share your favorite Bible verse with your friend.
9. Be worthy of the trust your friend has extended to you by sharing their problems. Consider that trust a compliment.
1 10. Point your friend to hope – not empty words but the true source of hope that God has expressed through His Word. A few examples are: “Casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you.” I Peter 5:7; “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18; “I will lift up my eyes to the mountains; from where shall my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth.” Psalm 121:1-2; For I know the plans I have for you says the Lord, plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11